2014 Relationship Building Challenge

December 18th, 2014 Jennifer Selby Long Posted in Relationship Challenge No Comments »

coffeeoutsideWe’re coming in for the big finish! On January 3, I recommended making one small change per month this year (http://jenniferselbylong.com/?p=729) to dramatically improve your skill and confidence in building relationships.
The challenge for October was:

“Be there when it’s tough. Over the course of a career, everyone has ups and downs, and some of them are very dramatic. When one of your Treasured Ten suffers a big blow (professional or personal, or both), many, many people will scatter. Don’t be one of those people. In fact, come in a little closer. Do what you can to help, even if it’s as small as continuing to meet up for coffee. Granted, tough times can come any time, not just in the month of November, but I had to put this somewhere. In the season of Thanksgiving, be thankful you can be there to support them.”

How did you do?

Here’s your final challenge, if you are willing to accept it:

“Think of something you appreciate about this relationship, and share it with the other person. For example, whenever a client is the inspiration for a Traveling Light column, I let him or her know. They often have a great time reading the article and seeing how I’ve disguised their identity. I’ve placed this habit in December because it is when we are most likely to reflect back on the year and think of these moments, but you can also do it as the situation arises.”

Let me know how it’s going, share your thoughts, and ask your questions any time at http://jenniferselbylong.com/?p=729.

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2014 Relationship Building Challenge

November 24th, 2014 Jennifer Selby Long Posted in Relationship Challenge No Comments »

coffeeoutsideFor those who are new to the 2014 Relationship Building Challenge, here’s the backstory: on January 3, I recommended making one small change per month this year (http://jenniferselbylong.com/?p=729) to dramatically improve your skill and confidence in building relationships. It’s not too late catch up. Just jump in and join us!
The challenge for October was:

“Write a recommendation on each person’s LinkedIn profile. Granted, you can’t do this if you haven’t worked together, but perhaps there’s something else you can do in fifteen minutes or less that’s a good deed for their business or career. Write a Yelp review for their local business. Buy their product and if you like it, share your enthusiasm on the appropriate social media. You get the idea.”

How did you do?

Here’s your challenge for November, if you are willing to accept it:

“Be there when it’s tough. Over the course of a career, everyone has ups and downs, and some of them are very dramatic. When one of your Treasured Ten suffers a big blow (professional or personal, or both), many, many people will scatter. Don’t be one of those people. In fact, come in a little closer. Do what you can to help, even if it’s as small as continuing to meet up for coffee. Granted, tough times can come any time, not just in the month of November, but I had to put this somewhere. In the season of Thanksgiving, be thankful you can be there to support them.”

Let me know how it’s going, share your thoughts, and ask your questions any time at http://jenniferselbylong.com/?p=729.

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2014 Relationship Building Challenge

October 22nd, 2014 Jennifer Selby Long Posted in Relationship Challenge No Comments »

coffeeoutsideFor those who are new to the 2014 Relationship Building Challenge, here’s the backstory: on January 3, I recommended making one small change per month this year to dramatically improve your skill and confidence in building relationships. It’s not too late catch up. Just jump in and join us!

The challenge for September was:

“Repeat the month of March. Call each person or arrange to see him or her in person, preferably over coffee or a meal, or via Skype if you live far apart. While it may not be feasible to see every person you’d like to see twice a year, it’s certainly worth the investment to make sure you see your Treasured Ten this often. If you’ve seen all of them recently, congratulations! You can kick back this month and just continue your habits from the other previous months.”

How did you do?

Here’s your challenge for October, if you are willing to accept it:

“Write a recommendation on each person’s LinkedIn profile. Granted, you can’t do this if you haven’t worked together, but perhaps there’s something else you can do in fifteen minutes or less that’s a good deed for their business or career. Write a Yelp review for their local business. Buy their product and if you like it, share your enthusiasm on the appropriate social media. You get the idea.”

Let me know how it’s going, share your thoughts, and ask your questions any time at http://jenniferselbylong.com/?p=729.

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2014 Relationship Building Challenge

August 21st, 2014 Jennifer Selby Long Posted in Relationship Challenge No Comments »

coffeeoutsideOn a serious note, the tragic death of Robin Williams earlier this week reminded me once again how important it is to take the time to build and nurture relationships. You don’t have to do 100% of the 2014 Relationship Building Challenge every month with everyone in order to make great progress. Just nudge yourself to do a little more. Should you lose a friend earlier than you ever imagined, you will be so happy that you prioritized the care and feeding of the friendship.

For those who are new to the 2014 Relationship Building Challenge, here’s the backstory: on January 3, I recommended making one small change per month this year (http://jenniferselbylong.com/?p=729) to dramatically improve your skill and confidence in building relationships. It’s not too late catch up. Just jump in and join us!

Your challenge for July was:

“Think of your Treasured Ten beyond the main environment in which you know them. For example, does one of them have a child who’s starting to look into colleges that provide the best education for a particular major? Ask friends in your network who hire in that profession which schools they would recommend and why. Share the information, but only share names and contact information with permission.

How did you do?

Here’s your challenge for August, if you are willing to accept it:

“Donate your money to their causes, assuming it’s a cause you’re comfortable supporting. Anyone who’s ever volunteered for a charity walk-a-thon or community fundraiser knows how much effort goes into getting people to sponsor them and put money in their bucket. Start setting aside some money to support those who are willing to dedicate their limited free time to a good cause, even the people who aren’t your Treasured Ten. The timing of these requests can be hard to anticipate, so with money set aside, you’ll be ready from this month onward.”

Let me know how it’s going, share your thoughts, and ask your questions any time at http://jenniferselbylong.com/?p=729.

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2014 Relationship Building Challenge

July 24th, 2014 Jennifer Selby Long Posted in Relationship Challenge No Comments »

coffeeoutsideOn January 3, I recommended making one small change per month this year (http://jenniferselbylong.com/?p=729) to dramatically improve your skill and confidence in building relationships. If you’ve been participating, pat yourself on the back. If not, it’s not too late catch up. Just jump in and join us!

Here’s your challenge for July, if you are willing to accept it:

“Think of your Treasured Ten beyond the main environment in which you know them. For example, does one of them have a child who’s starting to look into colleges that provide the best education for a particular major? Ask friends in your network who hire in that profession which schools they would recommend and why. Share the information, but only share names and contact information with permission.”

Let me know how it’s going, share your thoughts, and ask your questions any time.

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2014 Relationship Building Challenge

May 27th, 2014 Jennifer Selby Long Posted in Relationship Challenge No Comments »

coffeeoutsideOn January 3, I recommended making one small change per month this year (http://jenniferselbylong.com/?p=729) to dramatically improve your skill and confidence in building relationships. If you participated in January and February, pat yourself on the back. If not, it’s not too late catch up. Just jump in and join us!

The challenge for April was to “Take at least one action to help out each person. If you’re unsure if something you have in mind would be welcome, ask. It can be an action that only takes 5 – 10 minutes, or maybe it’s something bigger. Great relationship-builders create a huge “bank balance” of goodwill long before they ask for anything in exchange. If you have issues with over-helping, this will be a tougher one to manage, but you must master this, because generosity and selflessness are hallmarks of successful people. They are not stingy with their help. They don’t hold it close to the vest. They worry very little about getting screwed, because they know that for every one person who will take advantage, there are 100 who won’t, and the 100 are well worth the rotten experience of the one jerk.”

How did you do? Pop over to the 2014 Relationship Building Challenge blog post (http://jenniferselbylong.com/?p=729) and let me know how it went.

Here’s your challenge for May, if you are willing to accept it:

Introduce your Treasured Ten to people who can help them, or have a mutual interest, or ideally, complementary needs. You’ll need to develop the habit of always asking yourself who might like to meet whom in order to catch the best opportunities for your Treasured Ten.”

Let me know how it’s going, share your thoughts, and ask your questions any time at http://jenniferselbylong.com/?p=729.

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2014 Relationship Building Challenge

April 20th, 2014 Jennifer Selby Long Posted in Relationship Challenge No Comments »

coffeeoutsideOn January 3, I recommended making one small change per month this year (http://jenniferselbylong.com/?p=729) to dramatically improve your skill and confidence in building relationships. If you participated in January and February, pat yourself on the back. If not, it’s not too late catch up. Just jump in and join us!

The challenge for March was to “Arrange to see each of your Treasured Ten in person, preferably over coffee or a meal. That’s right, I want you to kick it old school and see your Treasured Ten face-to-face. If you are not in the same geography and don’t expect to travel soon, set up a Skype call. Learn what challenges they’re facing, what they’re excited about, and what they need. Share your own challenges and what you’re excited about, too. Be sure to use open-ended questions, which are questions that can’t be answered in one word.”

How did you do? Pop over to the 2014 Relationship Building Challenge blog post (http://jenniferselbylong.com/?p=729) and let me know how it went.

Here’s your challenge for April, if you are willing to accept it:

“Take at least one action to help out each person. If you’re unsure if something you have in mind would be welcome, ask. It can be an action that only takes 5 – 10 minutes, or maybe it’s something bigger. Great relationship-builders create a huge “bank balance” of goodwill long before they ask for anything in exchange. If you have issues with over-helping, this will be a tougher one to manage, but you must master this, because generosity and selflessness are hallmarks of successful people. They are not stingy with their help. They don’t hold it close to the vest. They worry very little about getting screwed, because they know that for every one person who will take advantage, there are 100 who won’t, and the 100 are well worth the rotten experience of the one jerk.”

Let me know how it’s going, share your thoughts, and ask your questions any time at http://jenniferselbylong.com/?p=729.

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2014 Relationship Building Challenge

March 20th, 2014 Jennifer Selby Long Posted in Relationship Challenge No Comments »

coffeeoutsideOn January 3, I recommended making one small change per month this year (http://jenniferselbylong.com/?p=729) to dramatically improve your skill and confidence in building relationships. If you participated in January and February, pat yourself on the back. If not, it’s not too late catch up. Just jump in and join us!

The challenge for February was to “Set a simple goal and metric for each relationship, or to keep it super-simple, one over-arching goal and one metric for the whole process. What gets measured gets managed. How will you know you are strengthening each relationship? What signs will indicate this? Those signs can be your metrics. You’re not measuring product performance; this metric can be soft and still be useful to you!”

How did you do? Pop over to the 2014 Relationship Building Challenge blog post (http://jenniferselbylong.com/?p=729) and let me know how it went.

Here’s your challenge for March, if you are willing to accept it:

“Arrange to see each of your Treasured Ten in person, preferably over coffee or a meal. That’s right, I want you to kick it old school and see your Treasured Ten face-to-face. If you are not in the same geography and don’t expect to travel soon, set up a Skype call. Learn what challenges they’re facing, what they’re excited about, and what they need. Share your own challenges and what you’re excited about, too. Be sure to use open-ended questions, which are questions that can’t be answered in one word.”

Let me know how it’s going, share your thoughts, and ask your questions any time at http://jenniferselbylong.com/?p=729.

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2014 Relationship Building Challenge

February 20th, 2014 Jennifer Selby Long Posted in Relationship Challenge No Comments »

coffeeoutsideOn January 3, I recommended making one small change per month this year to dramatically improve your skill and confidence in building relationships. If you participated in January, pat yourself on the back. If not, it’s quick to catch up, and you can easily complete both the January and February challenges in just one month.

The challenge for January was to “Focus, focus, focus. Since this is a developmental process, we’re going to target it. Make a list of no more than ten people with whom you want to build stronger relationships in 2014. This is important, because the list will be the basis for our work. Let’s call them your Treasured Ten.”

How did you do? Pop over to the 2014 Relationship Building Challenge blog post (http://jenniferselbylong.com/?p=729) and let me know how it went.

Here’s your challenge for February, if you are willing to accept it:

“Set a simple goal and metric for each relationship, or to keep it super-simple, one over-arching goal and one metric for the whole process. What gets measured gets managed. How will you know you are strengthening each relationship? What signs will indicate this? Those signs can be your metrics. You’re not measuring product performance; this metric can be soft and still be useful to you!”

Let me know how it’s going, share your thoughts, and ask your questions any time.

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